Welcome To L.O.V.E. Weight Loss!
Love Yourself, L.O.V.E. Weight Loss
We don't believe you need to deprive yourself of foods you love to lose weight
What are L.O.V.E. Weight Loss students saying?
“It forces me to treat myself the way I treat others” ~ Christine C.
“I love how relaxing it is. I always feel great when I leave” ~ Elaina I.
“I love how happy I am. I look forward to this every week because I know how great I’ll feel afterwards” ~ Marie R
Years of Experience
What is L.O.V.E. Weight Loss?
- A weekly 90 minute class, running for six months, costing just $125 per month
- Max. four people per class
- A class that teaches students not only practical steps to lose weight, but also helps with uncovering emotional blocks to losing weight
- A program that treats each student like the unique individual they are – no one-size-fits-all plan!
- A program that will never ask you to give anything up (not even wine, or chocolate) but instead how to live with these things in your life and still lose weight.
- Baby steps, that start small and build on each other week by week to make the lifestyle transition barely noticeable.
What techniques do you use?
- Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
- Positive Psychology
- Creating New Associations with Food
- Overcoming Boredom Skills
- Practical Anxiety-Reduction Tools
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Interview with L.O.V.E. Weight Loss Founder Abi Caruthers, C.Ht.
Why did you start L.O.V.E. Weight Loss?
I started L.O.V.E. for many reasons. Firstly, I have battled with my weight for most of my life. I have tried everything from WeightWatchers to The Lemonade Cleanse and EVERYTHING in between. Probably everything you can possibly think of. And ALL of it worked. I lost weight with everything I did. But as soon as I was done, I would go back to the same habits I had before I did the program and gained all the weight back, if not more. After a while, I just gave up. I resigned myself to be 40 – 60 lbs overweight, and accepted that I would never be content with my body.
Then I became a hypnotherapist and everything changed. I realised that the reason I could never keep the weight off, is that my regular habits and behavior did not match up with the behaviors needed to lose weight. My subconscious mind would placate me for a while, and let me have my phases of losing weight, until it decided that it was time to go back to the way I “usually” to did things. If I was to have a long-term change in my weight, I was going to need long-term behaviors to match, and that is best achieved with hypnosis. I began my own exploration into combining weight loss with hypnotherapy. I tried a few different combinations of exercises on tools on first myself, then my private clients, and when everyone was having astonishing success, I created a group to make it cheaper and more accessible.
What makes L.O.V.E. Weight Loss different from other programs?
- It’s a science based program that incorporates the nutrition basics you need to know, but focuses on the psychology and behaviors behind losing weight (or your lack of being able to).
- It is based in love, whereas most programs are based in fear. Some are based in humiliation and some in pure restriction. L.O.V.E. Weight Loss is all accepting, that’s why I believe it’s compatible with any other program. It doesn’t judge, just supports.
- It is not restrictive. In fact, the entire first lesson is focused on teaching students that they will never be told to cut something out of their diet. No food is “bad” or “good”. All food is food, and moderation is the key.
- We use Hypnotherapy, NLP, Postive Psychology, Anchoring, Stress-Reduction and many other tools and techniques to restructure the basic relationship our students have with food. It is no longer used to punish or reward or suppress emotions. It is just yummy, delicious food ready to be enjoyed!
- We focus on incremental changes. Small steps are the only way for lasting change. If a student tells me they have cut dessert out in their first few weeks, I will assign them the homework of eating dessert EVERY night. The more abrupt your changes are, the more likely you are to switch back. If the change is so insignificant that your subconscious mind doesn’t notice it, there’s nothing to “undo”. That’s why it’s a minimum six month program, and many of our students stay on for the extension program.
- We deal with the root cause of the eating (or not eating) issue and I don’t know of any other program that does that. Release and heal the hurt, and long-term change is not only possible, it is probable.
- It’s a safe place. Your group becomes your family, routing for your success and crying with you over your disappointments. There is no judgement, in fact, judgement is not tolerated in the space.
- Over the course of the program, we teach our students how to be in love with themselves. When you are in love with someone, you are focused on what you can do to benefit that person, and you would never do something intentionally to hurt them. When you are in love with yourself, it’s easy to say no to things that hurt you or make you feel bad, and easy to say yes to things that benefit you!
Why use Hypnoptherapy?
I think we can all agree that making a change in your behavior is really, really hard. It’s like you have motivation for a few days or weeks and all of the sudden you start losing steam and then one day you hit a wall and you say “Screw it!” or a variation of that. You go back to the way you used to do things. But do we stop to wonder why that is, or do we just blame ourselves for being “lazy”. The subconscious mind, which makes up 88% of our mind power, controls our behaviors. It’s one and ONLY job is to keep us safe. What is safe is what is known. When we start doing something that is unknown, our minds will play along for a little bit until things start looking too “unsafe” (which, with weight loss, is when we start to lose weight) and it stops any new behavior in its tracks. Hypnotherapy is one of the only techniques that can directly access the subconscious mind and start creating new behaviors. It is not magic, and it’s not as simple as stating a few positive suggestions and everything is different, but it does help create a more optimal environment for us to make positive changes. We go in and out of hypnosis every day, every time we wake up or go to sleep, when we’re driving and we miss our exit, whenever we “zone” out or are in the “zone”, so it’s a very natural state. It is impossible to control someone, or make them do something they wouldn’t do, and you are never unconscious or asleep.
How can you be sure that the behavior changes will be long term?
Well, there’s no guarantees with anything. But this is the closest I have come to seeing people make long term changes with minimal struggle. When you are changing a small thing at a time, you are staying under the radar of the subconscious mind. The change is so minute that it doesn’t give it a second thought. And you keep doing the new thing, eg. starting your day with a glass of water with lemon, until it’s second nature and you don’t even think about it. Then you add a new tiny behavior until that one becomes second nature etc. All changes are reinforced with hypnosis, and, along with healing any old wounds or unhealthy associations with food, after a while you are the new person, and all of your old behaviors become the way you used to be. It’s like saying “How can you be sure I won’t forget how to drive a car?” You just do it so many times that you don’t even have to think about it.
What does L.O.V.E. stand for?
L is for Laughter because I believe that if you’re not having fun, what’s the point? We could all use a little silliness and light-heartedness on this crazy journey called LIFE!
O is for Optimism because you have to believe it is possible. You must have hope and faith in yourself. You have to learn how to see the glass half full.
V is for Vitality – this is interweaving a little of my spirituality into the mix. It stands for our chi, our Qi, the soul, the consciousness experience because without it we would be animals.
E is for Excellence because we always want to strive to do things to the best of our abilities. That means we release trying to achieve perfection and we bring in more compassion, knowing that our best is only under the given set of circumstances. For example, on a terrible day, your best might be eating only one piece of cheesecake instead of the whole thing!
And most importantly, LOVE, which is the basis of all things. We either live in fear or love. We are taught by society to live in fear. I unprogram my students to live in love.
Why would someone do a group and not one-on-one sessions?
They might not, necessarily. Some of my clients prefer one-on-ones. But some people need to feel a team effort and that there is accountability. There is something magical about being with other people who are on the same journey as you, who are feeling the same frustrations, experiencing the same triumphs. When you’re having a tough week, you can be inspired by one of your group mates and keep going. When you are having a great week, you can share what is working for you. Without exception, the people in the groups become great friends and stay close friends long after the L.O.V.E. Weight Loss journey has ended.